Good fighting .... Bad Fighting !

 Not all arguing is equal  ...

I observe so many couples that get caught up in arguments that go on and on, never resolving issues, and then they wonder why their relationships are so hard. There is a way to argue that resolves issues and makes happiness possible. There is also a way to argue that will tear each other down and then destroy the relationship.

When arguing, be careful to always "act", not "react". Once your words are spoken they can never be taken back. Being honest does not have to be harsh or critical. If you feel a lethal verbal missile is about to launch from between your lips, close your mouth instead and take a deep breath. In the end forgiveness and choosing to love actively is the balm that heals every wound.

I know.... easy to say, very hard to do. But, again this is one of those things that becomes second nature with practice.