In the real world, with real life, there will be days, there will be moments, when you will struggle to feel the "love" you once thought would be for always. We react to words spoken, actions, and the absence of same that, suddenly, without us realizing it will start to eat at the foundation of what keeps us together.
I have commented before on the importance of respect in ANY relationship. Respect absolutely is not an option in a romantic or marriage relationship. Loose your grip of this one, and it really does not matter what else you have going for you or your relationship. The insidious danger with not having or demonstrating respect is that sometimes we do not really understand what respect looks like.
If you think that "respect" has to be earned you may as well pack your bags now and save yourself a lot of grief down the road. Your decision has already been made.
Respect at it's foundation is all encompassing. To respect your partner, you must also respect your commitments. You must respect your [implied] promises. You must respect what you have allowed the other to assume that they can expect from you. You must respect your marriage. You must respect your vows. You must respect the marriage itself regardless of the person you are married to, no matter what is going on inside of it, or NOT going on inside of it.
You respect your marriage enough that after an argument you do not slam that door behind you and head for the nearest drinking hole to see who who may treat you "better". You do not allow yourself to be in a position where you try to distract your pain with just a "little harmless flirting" while you "test" to see if you are still a "viable commodity" in the "marketplace".
Respect at it's foundation will value the other person and SHOW that you value them. This is the starting point for the communication that must follow to resolve ANY and ALL marital or relationship issues. You will NEVER solve issues between you IF the other person thinks you do not speak and behave in a way that is respectful to them. Dis-respect even on rare occasions can last a very, very, very long time. If not properly and seriously addressed this very long time can easily turn into a lifetime.
When you disrespect a man he will always remember the feeling at that moment. He may soon forget the circumstances but not the injury to his ego. He may not understand why, but he will find it harder to be your "hero" or to even find the motivation to try.
When you disrespect a women she will NEVER forget the day, time or place you did that. She will probably remember the weather that day and what you were wearing. Her memory of that disrespect will always make it harder for her to love you, in that way you need to be loved. Even after you fix it with her, that memory is always lurking in the dark places of her mind just waiting for a "trigger" to bring it all back just like yesterday. Guys; be really careful not to screw up here in the same way more than once. The effect is compounded.
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