Intimacy..... Just a Memory?

This is a major problem in many relationships. This is one of the top three reasons for divorce. We feel free to make jokes about it, but hesitate to talk openly and seriously about it. It is the subject of much innuendo, and ridicule. We don't understand the power it has to bond a couple or to destroy a couple, as well as many others that are caught in the "ripple effect". We approach it carelessly and are then surprised when it becomes the biggest barrier to a happy and fulfilled relationship. We ignore it, and then are surprised by the infidelity or divorce that follows.

I know from the feedback I have been getting that this issue is NOT a small problem for only a few. It is BIG, and marriages are hurting and dissolving over this, even as I write.
Do not take the state of your intimacy for granted. Do not assume all is well, or that it will remain well. If there is one thing couples need to talk about freely and without blame or judgment more than anything else, this is it. By all accounts talking about sex between couples appears to be the single most difficult thing they can do. And, if one or both of a couple come from a devout religious upbringing this may even be more difficult for them.

Even if you are satisfied with your current state of intimacy (or lack thereof) do not assume it is the same for your partner. Find a way to talk about it. This is not something you talk about just once. This will be an ongoing discussion all the days of your lives. Learn to be comfortable in this communication. Take steps to restore the intimacy that defines (or should define) why your relationship with each other is different from every other relationship you have in your life. If you haven’t discovered it yet, you will be surprised to learn how “fixing” and “fine tuning” this part of your relationship will spill over and change every other part of your relationship.

This article is a good start. If your issues are more deeply entrenched or complex you will need more help. There are many resources and helps available. This IS fixable. The one thing not to do is nothing.

5 Things You Can Do To Restore Dormant Intimacy 

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